Monday, November 12, 2012

Thanksgiving Blog Hop #2

In case you missed it, Brenda Drake is hosting a wonderful Blog Hop. 
Click on the link below the turkey to join.

Today's post is about my best friend, who also happens to be my husband. 
We met in art school, two of four students who actually showed up to Art History class in a blizzard. Apparently he spent the hour writing a note to his friend in New Hampshire about the cute girl in his class. *blushing*
Here I am at the time.

He was really preppy, I think he might even have been wearing a bow tie. I politely ignored him. Unfortunately I don't have a "Before" picture of him. 
But below you can see the result of my, um, influence. His family was none too pleased.
These are photos of our passport photos, taken just before we went to the U.K. 
Yes, it is a bit of a twist on the Pygmalion and Galatea story...because I did eventually fall in love with him.

In those days my creativity was channeled through hair gel and painting. He always cheered me on in art school, and told me my realistic portraits were great, even if everyone else was doing angry abstracts and conceptual work. And after some rough class critiques he cheered me up (I cheered him up too, of course). 

We got married and had a decorative painting business together for a couple of years - murals, faux finishes, that sort of thing. Our company was called Nymph & Satyr Designs. We never got sick of each other, even spending EVERY waking moment together.

But, I really want to talk about my husband and writing.

My very first attempt at a novel remains unfinished, but he read what I'd written and said I should keep writing, that I was good at it. He still thinks I should finish that book. 
It's called THE ISLANDS OF PENOBSCOT BAY. Look for it on bookstore shelves in 2030 or so.

He was the first person to read all three of my finished books. He read the first one at least three times, because I changed it repeatedly based on agent feedback. 

He helps keep me sane during the roller-coaster ride of querying, rejections, requests, more rejections, R&Rs, and so on. 

He keeps telling me "it will happen-don't give up" and I like to think he's right. We're even making a BIG move, in part so that I can keep writing and not have to go back to work full-time.

I'll always remember the moment he came into the kitchen, hugged me, quoted a line from my most recent book TENDRIL, and said "No matter what, keep writing. You are too damn good not to make it."
That made me cry.
Hopefully one of these days his faith in me will be rewarded. 

p.s. In case you're wondering, neither of us has a mohawk now.


  1. Those photos are awesome! When you said they were from your passports for some reason the movie Gotcha kept popping into my head! So wonderful you have such a great support system in your husband ;-)

  2. I never saw the movie, so I googled it-sounds pretty exciting and reminiscent of the the "Bourne" movies which I like a lot. Thanks for stopping by :)

  3. What a great tribute to supportive partnership! though you changed hair, did you keep up the business? It sounds awesome.

    1. No, it was too hard to try to get it off the ground while working two other FT jobs. Besides neither of us liked the "business" part of running a business, lol.

  4. I love a good, long-lasting romance. :) And the pictures are great, too. :)

    1. Yes, on Halloween we just celebrated our *mumblemumblemumble* anniversary. I showed my younger daughter the photos and she said "You look the same, except for your hair do." Way to suck up to Mom :)

  5. Awesome pictures! Without a good support system, I think us writers would all go crazy. Well, crazier than we already are.

    1. So true! Plus I would probably be a complete hermit-having a social life only in cyberspace.

  6. Love the Flock of Seagulls like hair - AWESOME! This is such a sweet story. Love your hubby for being so supportive. Never give up, your dream could be right around the corner! ;)

  7. The pics are priceless--your hubby really started out wearing a bow tie? That's even beyond prepster. He sounds like a character and a treasure. Seems like he claimed you from the start and you got yourself quite a deal.

  8. Yes, he started out pre-med too. He is a treasure. When he told me he had a crush on me I said that was "cute". I don't think he's quite forgiven me for that one, lol.

  9. Thanks for tipping me off to the photos, Rhiann. Amy Mann (in the Till Tuesday era) meets prepster and turns him into Robert Smith - Brilliant! :-)

    But I didn't know you were going to get me all misty. My eyes are stinging because I know the value of the precious gift your writerly self is receiving every day from your best friend. It makes all the difference. We'll both make it, because of our best friend support system.

    Thanks for sharing!

    1. I used to frequent the same places in Boston as AM and in fact got mistaken for her sometimes (by people who clearly didn't realize how extremely tall and thin she is). For a while we lived around the corner from each other and had the same hair person. As for Robert Smith-love him.
      I am glad you also have a good support system, they are invaluable considering all the rejection we face in our chosen endeavor. Thanks for stopping by :)